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Mum Burnout is Real: How to Recognise It & Recover

Mum Burnout is Real: How to Recognise It & Recover

by | Feb 26, 2025 | Beth Lewis, Blog, Self Care

Motherhood is a beautiful, fulfilling journey, but let’s be honest—it’s also exhausting. Between the never-ending to-do lists, sleepless nights, and emotional demands, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. If you’ve ever found yourself running on empty, snapping at your kids, or feeling like you just can’t do this anymore – you might be experiencing mum burnout.
Burnout isn’t just about being tired. It’s deep, chronic exhaustion that affects your body, mind, and emotions. The good news? You can recover from it and prevent it from taking over your life. Let’s dive into what mum burnout really looks like and, more importantly, how you can recharge and reclaim your energy.

What is Mum Burnout?

Mum burnout is chronic physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion caused by prolonged stress, high expectations, and a lack of self-care. Unlike everyday tiredness, burnout leaves you feeling completely depleted, detached, and often resentful of your responsibilities.
It happens when you give and give—without ever taking time to refill your own cup.

Signs You Might Be Experiencing Mum Burnout

If you’re wondering whether you’re dealing with burnout or just the usual exhaustion of motherhood, here are some red flags:
  • Constant Fatigue – No matter how much sleep you get, you still feel drained.
  • Irritability & Short Temper – You find yourself snapping at your kids or partner over small things.
  • Emotional Detachment – You feel numb, disconnected, or like you’re going through the motions.
  • Overwhelm & Anxiety – Even small tasks feel like too much to handle.
  • Feeling Unappreciated – You start resenting the fact that no one seems to notice all that you do.
  • Loss of Joy – Activities that once made you happy no longer bring you pleasure.
  • Physical Symptoms – Headaches, muscle tension, stomach issues, or frequent illnesses due to stress.
If any of these sound familiar, it’s time to take burnout seriously. Ignoring it won’t make it go away—it’ll only make things worse.

How to Recover from Mum Burnout

The first step to healing from burnout is acknowledging that you deserve rest and care too. Here’s how to start your recovery:
1. Give Yourself Permission to Rest
Burnout happens when we push through exhaustion instead of listening to our bodies. It’s okay to pause. You don’t have to do everything right now.
💡 Action Step: Give yourself permission to rest without guilt. Even if it’s just 10 minutes of sitting quietly with a cup of tea, start somewhere.
2. Stop Trying to Be Supermum
Society places enormous pressure on mums to “do it all,” but perfection is impossible. The house doesn’t have to be spotless. Your kids don’t need gourmet meals every night. Let go of the pressure to be everything to everyone.
💡 Action Step: Choose one thing to let go of this week—whether it’s an unnecessary chore, a commitment, or an unrealistic expectation.
3. Ask for Help (and Accept It!)
You are not meant to do this alone. Whether it’s your partner, family, or friends, ask for help when you need it. If someone offers to watch the kids or cook a meal—say yes!
💡 Action Step: Reach out to one person today and ask for support with something small.
4. Prioritise Yourself—Even in Small Ways
Self-care isn’t about spa days (although that would be nice!). It’s about doing small things every day that make you feel human again.
  • Take a shower in peace.
  • Read a chapter of a book.
  • Go for a 10-minute walk.
  • Eat a meal while actually sitting down.
  • Drink your coffee while it’s still hot!
💡 Action Step: Write down one self-care activity you can do today—and do it.
5. Set Boundaries & Learn to Say No
If you’re constantly overcommitting and feeling drained, it’s time to set boundaries. You do not have to attend every event, volunteer for every school function, or say yes to every favour.
💡 Action Step: Practice saying no to something that doesn’t serve you. Protect your energy.
6. Reconnect with Yourself
Motherhood can make you feel like you’ve lost you. Take time to reconnect with who you are outside of being a mum. What did you love before kids? What lights you up?
💡 Action Step: Spend 30 minutes this week doing something just for you—whether it’s journaling, painting, exercising, or watching your favourite show.
7. Seek Professional Help
If you’re feeling persistently overwhelmed, anxious, or depressed, reach out!
Working with a Coach, or Therapist will fast track you to feeling more energised – mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and mentally.
Burnout can take a serious toll on your overall health, and seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness.
It’s always a good idea to check in with Naturopath, or Integrative GP who can test all your levels. Our bodies need the right fuel to feel energised and when we’re out of balance internally, this can have a serious impact on our mental and emotional health. (Over 90% of your serotonin is manufactured in your gut, so whatever action you take, note that a holistic approach will always be the most powerful step to an energised life!)
💡 Action Step: If burnout feels unmanageable, consider talking to a professional who can guide you toward healing.

You Deserve to Feel Good Again

Mum burnout is real, but it’s not a life sentence. You are not failing—you’re just human. And just like you care for your kids, you deserve that same love and care.
So today, I encourage you to take one small step toward recharging your energy and reclaiming your joy. Because when you take care of yourself, you’re not just doing it for you—you’re doing it for your family too. 💛
IT’S OKAY TO FEEL LIKE THIS

IT’S OKAY TO FEEL LIKE THIS

by | Aug 3, 2021 | Blog

IT’S OKAY TO FEEL LIKE THIS

We all have our down days. Some days feel like they go on forever.

Sometimes it feels like ground-hog day and we feel pretty damn unfulfilled. Then the guilt creeps in and we beat ourselves up for feeling this way because we love our children, but we don’t get ‘everything we need’ by ‘just being a Mum.’

It’s okay – you can say it.
I have these days too.

The days when you feel disconnected from yourself, your partner, and pretty much everything.
The days when you can’t seem to pull yourself out of the brain fog. The exhaustion. The heaviness.
The days when you feel so much anxious energy charging through your body, you feel like what you really need is to throw a tantrum like a toddler and cry for approximately 5 days.

It’s okay.

Forgive yourself for being human. For having these thoughts. For feeling this way. It’s okay.

Allow yourself to flow with what is coming up for you, and breathe.

Cry. Scream. Reach out.

I see you, Mumma. You are not alone. You are magnificent.

You pick others up when you have nothing left. You pick others up when you can’t even pick yourself up.

The moment you decide to forgive yourself for not having all your shit together all the time, is the moment you are free. Flow with it.

It really is okay.
I’ve got you, Mumma.

Reach out for a virtual coffee if you feel to and I will hold space for you: www.calendly.com/bethlewis/coaching

DO YOU EVER FEEL LONELY?

DO YOU EVER FEEL LONELY?

by | Jan 25, 2021 | Blog

DO YOU EVER FEEL LONELY?

Do you ever have that feeling of emptiness inside you even though you’re in a house full of people, or sitting with your partner?

Me too.

Being alone doesn’t mean you don’t have people in your space.

It means you don’t have space for yourself.

Let me explain. Let’s drop deeper!

Sitting with the stirring feeling that there is something missing, is generally an indication that you have disconnected from who YOU truly are.

Recently, following a series of personal challenges, I had been feeling restless and sad. This uneasy feeling started showing up everywhere and I started doubting EVERYTHING.

I felt disconnected from my partner because when you’re already hurting you just want to look at the person who is ‘meant to get you more than anyone’ and say “FIX IT!”

How frustrating is it when they can’t!!??

I found myself getting frustrated over the smallest things in my relationship and little things became big things very quickly.

What did I do?

After a massive cry, I took a breath. Then went inward.

I gave myself permission to feel the way I felt and I let myself sit with this feeling.

Tears fell.

I put one hand on my heart and one on my belly.

I realised in that moment, that the connection and harmony I was craving (that I didn’t feel my partner ‘giving to me’) was up to me to give to myself.

It was up to me to show up in my relationship as the beautiful, divine goddess I know I am. I deserve that.

I do not need to wait for a man to ‘make me feel this way.’

Nor do I need a man to complete me – because I am already complete.

I felt a sense of power and harmony return to me, because I had taken my power back.

I was back.

My partner began to respond to my peaceful energy and the energy in our home shifted to what I feared had disappeared.

We booked a night away together and had the most phenomenal date night I could’ve hoped for! I fell in love with my man all over again – because I had fallen in love with me again.

He commented on my energy and said he felt a sense of inner peace and softness and that was beautiful.

It is so easy to put power into the way we ‘need’ others to make us feel and forget that we can do this for ourselves.

When we show up for ourselves internally – others show up for us externally.

If you’re feeling disconnected from your partner – book a date with yourself first!

If you’re feeling disconnected from yourself and you’re stuck on how to shift this – book a date with me! I can help.

REMEMBER!

If YOU don’t show up for yourself and DECIDE to make a shift – nobody else will.

Book your complimentary Support Session with me today. Show up for YOU!

THERE WERE 3 IN THE BED

THERE WERE 3 IN THE BED

by | Oct 22, 2020 | Blog

THERE WERE 3 IN THE BED

Okay, let’s talk relationshit… Whoops! I’m mean RELATIONSHIPS! Or do I?

We all know that having a baby is exhausting and one area of your life this can affect is the relationship you have with your partner.
You’ve gone from being free and easy and only having to consider yourselves, to your relationship being triangulated by this little human demanding all your attention — which can leave one, or both of you feeling neglected. (And in some cases, resentful.)
Finding your feet in this new chapter you’ve entered when you’re sleep deprived and overwhelmed can be incredibly challenging and finding your way back to one another can seem impossible.

Communication really is key!

Talk to one another. Talk about how you’re feeling, what’s coming up for you and what you need.
When you have no energy to talk, a warm embrace is sometimes all you need. The act of physical touch is a powerful thing.

REMEMBER!

When we’re sleep-deprived, our minds can play tricks on us. You can be feeling a lot of negative “things” and the people we’re closest to are the ones we take it out on.
Before you REACT or LASH OUT — STOP, BREATHE, and ask yourself what you’re really feeling below what you’re about to say or react to. Sometimes all you really want to say to your partner is — “I MISS YOU.” So say it.
If you really are struggling and need support in ANY way — ASK! It’s okay not to be okay.

BREATHE

BREATHE

by | Jul 22, 2020 | Blog

BREATHE

Every time I do or say something I think to myself, “What example am I setting for my son?”
I read a quote recently that resonated with me deeply:
“When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it’s our job to share our calm not join their chaos.”
~ L.R. Knost
 
Breathe.
Reset.
Take a moment.
Ask for support.
Talk.
Love.

Practice gratitude.

When you’re sleep deprived, overwhelmed and beyond exhausted, it’s very easy to let your emotions take over. It’s okay! We’re all human and it’s important for our kids to see this too… it’s how we repair after rupturing that will stick with them.

MOTHERS IN-TUITION

MOTHERS IN-TUITION

by | Jul 13, 2020 | Blog

MOTHERS IN-TUITION

Becoming a Mother can be overwhelming. With SO much information available to us, this can be wonderfully supportive – and a little too much at the same time!

One thing I’ve learnt on this journey so far is that my intuition is usually spot on. Any time I have started to feel stressed, overwhelmed and out of my depth has actually been when I’ve listened to too much advice from others or based my parenting style on what me or my child “should/shouldn’t” be doing.
 
Don’t get me wrong, certain advice and support is imperative when it comes to parenting – it’s what we do with this advice and if it resonates well with us as parents that counts. (If it doesn’t resonate with you as a Mother, your child can feel your energy… remember that.)

This message is for all those new Mums out there “trying to get it right” –
My biggest breakthrough came when I surrendered to being present with my little guy and tuned in to my INtuition. Your intuition is strongest when you’re present and not overwhelmed with how you “should” be doing things. Do what feels right for you and your baby and let go of what you thought it might look like.

“Information is helpful. INtuition is key.”