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Why You Should Stop Feeling Guilty for Taking ‘Me Time’ (And What Happens When You Finally Do)

Why You Should Stop Feeling Guilty for Taking ‘Me Time’ (And What Happens When You Finally Do)

by | Jun 4, 2025 | Self Care

You finally get five minutes to yourself.

You sit down with a hot cuppa, or sneak away for a solo walk.

And then it hits you…

That sinking, nagging feeling: mum guilt.

You start thinking about the washing, the school emails, the snack requests, the to-do list still growing in your head.

Sound familiar?

Let’s get one thing clear right now:

Taking time for yourself doesn’t make you selfish.

It makes you sustainable.

And there is nothing wrong with meeting your own needs.

💛 Why ‘Me Time’ Is So Hard for Mums

We’ve been conditioned to believe that “good mums” are:

  1. Always available
  2. Always selfless
  3. Always putting others first

But that belief leads to burnout, resentment, and emotional depletion.

You weren’t meant to pour endlessly without being refilled.

You’re not a machine. You’re a human. And humans need rest, joy, space—and care.

🌿 The Truth About ‘Me Time’

Taking time for yourself is not about escaping your family.

It’s about reconnecting with yourself so you can show up from a place of fullness, not fatigue.

Because let’s face it—when you’re exhausted, touched out, and overwhelmed, everyone gets your leftovers. And that doesn’t serve anyone.

But when you take even 10 minutes just for you?

  1. You respond instead of react
  2. You have more patience, presence, and perspective
  3. You remember that you matter too

✨ What Happens When You Let Go of the Guilt

When you give yourself permission to rest, recharge, and breathe, you start to:

  1. Feel more like yourself again (not just “Mum”)
  2. Model self-respect and boundaries for your kids
  3. Strengthen your emotional resilience
  4. Reclaim parts of your identity that might’ve been lost in the chaos of motherhood

And perhaps most importantly—you begin to trust that you are worthy of care, not just as a mum, but as a woman.

🫶 Still Feeling Guilty? Try This Reframe:

Ask yourself:

“Would I want my child to feel guilty for taking care of themselves someday?”

Of course not.

So why do you believe you’re any less deserving?

You’re not lazy. You’re not indulgent. You’re not neglecting your family.

You are investing in your ability to show up—calmer, happier, and more connected.

🌸 10 Simple ‘Me Time’ Ideas That Actually Fit Into Mum Life

Because let’s be real—you don’t need a spa weekend (although, yes please). You need accessible moments that remind you you’re more than the mess.

Try:

  1. A walk around the block—solo.
  2. Journaling for 5 minutes with a candle lit.
  3. Listening to your favourite podcast or playlist.
  4. Sitting in the sun with a coffee.
  5. Saying no to a commitment that drains you.
  6. Buying yourself fresh flowers.
  7. Meditating or breathing deeply for 3 minutes.
  8. Reading a chapter of a non-parenting book.
  9. Watching a show that you choose.
  10. Doing absolutely nothing (and loving it).

🌈 You Are Allowed to Take Up Space

Dear Mumma, your worth is not tied to how much you do for others.

You are enough—even when you rest.

You are enough—even when you say no.

You are enough—even when you take time to care for yourself.

So next time that guilt creeps in, remind yourself:

“I am allowed to rest. I am allowed to enjoy. I am allowed to exist outside of what I do for others.”

And let that truth sink deep into your bones.

Because your wellbeing matters—just as much as everyone else’s.

Why One-on-One Time With Each Child Matters

Why One-on-One Time With Each Child Matters

by | May 8, 2025 | Beth Lewis, Self Care

Let’s be honest—parenting can feel like a constant juggle. Between making lunches, wiping down benches, breaking up sibling arguments, and replying to school emails… it’s easy to get stuck in survival mode.

And in all the chaos, we can sometimes miss the most important part of it all—connection.

One-on-one time with each of your kids doesn’t just sound like a sweet idea. It’s one of the most powerful ways to help them feel seen, heard, and loved for exactly who they are.

No interruptions. No sharing your attention. Just you and them.

Even five minutes can make a world of difference.

Why One-on-One Time Really Matters

Because each of your kids is a whole world of their own.

And as much as you love them all, it’s hard to truly tune in when everyone’s talking over each other, someone’s yelling from the bathroom, and you’re trying to cook dinner without burning the rice (again).

When you spend time with one child at a time:

  1. You get to slow down and really see them

  2. They get to feel special, not just “one of the pack”

  3. The tension between siblings often softens (because they’re not competing for your attention)

  4. They’re more likely to open up, cooperate, and feel connected

You’ll probably notice: their behaviour shifts, their energy calms, and your bond deepens.

And yours does too.

 

Why It Feels So Hard to Do

You might be thinking:

  1. “I barely get five minutes to pee alone.”

  2. “My schedule is already full.”

  3. “I feel guilty I haven’t done this already.”

Hey—no guilt needed here.

You’re doing your best with what you have. One-on-one time isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing small moments with more intention.

 

How to Make It Happen (Without Overcomplicating It)

You don’t need a full day or a Pinterest-worthy activity. Connection lives in the tiny, quiet, everyday moments.

1. Use What You’re Already Doing

Turn ordinary into meaningful:

  1. Take one child grocery shopping and let them pick a treat

  2. Ask one to help you cook (yes, it’ll be messier—but they’ll love it)

  3. Sit on the edge of their bed for five minutes and ask about their day

2. Schedule It (Even 15 Minutes)

Pop it in your calendar like you would a meeting or appointment. A simple “You and Me Time” on a Sunday arvo or after school can go a long way.

Let them know it’s their time. It builds anticipation and deepens the bond.

3. Let Them Take the Lead

Ask: “What would you love to do, just you and me?”

It could be playing LEGO, drawing, a walk around the block, or just cuddling on the couch watching Bluey. It doesn’t need to be fancy.

4. Embrace Micro-Moments

If all you have is five minutes in the car or while folding laundry—use it. It’s not about the amount of time. It’s about how present you are in it.

Put down your phone. Look them in the eyes. Listen fully.

That’s the magic.

 

If You’re Feeling Behind…

Please don’t beat yourself up if this isn’t something you’ve done lately. Life is busy. You’re likely giving your all and then some.

This isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence.

You don’t need to get it “right.” You just need to show up.

Even the smallest moment of one-on-one time can leave the biggest imprint on their heart.

 

What They’ll Remember

Not the toys. Not the snacks. Not even whether you were late to school pick-up.

They’ll remember how you made them feel.

They’ll remember when you listened.

When you laughed at their joke.

When they had you—all to themselves.

And you’ll remember it too.

Because these are the moments that refill your cup as much as theirs.

Why Mums Need Positive Self-Talk Every Day

Why Mums Need Positive Self-Talk Every Day

by | Apr 23, 2025 | Beth Lewis, Self Care

Let’s face it—being a mum is tough. You’re juggling countless responsibilities, constantly making decisions for others, and navigating the emotional rollercoaster of motherhood. In the middle of it all, it’s easy to become your own harshest critic.

You forgot the school excursion note? You’re so disorganised.

Lost your cool after a long day? You’re a bad mum.

Didn’t get to that load of washing? You’re lazy.

Sound familiar?

The inner dialogue we carry can either uplift us or tear us down. That’s where the power of positive self-talk comes in. It’s not about ignoring challenges or pretending everything is perfect—it’s about choosing to speak to yourself with the same compassion you give everyone else.

Here’s why being kinder to yourself as a mum is more than just a feel-good strategy—it’s essential.

1. Your Words Shape Your Reality

The way you speak to yourself impacts how you feel, how you act, and what you believe. Constant negative self-talk leads to guilt, burnout, and low self-esteem. On the other hand, supportive and kind inner dialogue can boost your confidence and resilience.

Try This:

When you catch yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough,” reframe it:

“I’m doing my best, and that’s enough today.”

2. Kids Learn by Watching You

Your children are always observing. When they see you being hard on yourself, they learn to be hard on themselves too. But if they see you showing self-compassion, picking yourself up after mistakes, and speaking with kindness, they’ll learn to do the same.

Try This:

Say things out loud like, “That was tricky, but I’m proud of how I handled it.”

It teaches them that imperfection is human—and kindness is powerful.

3. Perfection Isn’t the Goal—Presence Is

So many mums hold themselves to impossible standards. But your children don’t need a perfect mum. They need a present, emotionally available, and loving one. You can’t show up as your best self if you’re constantly tearing yourself down inside.

Try This:

Swap “I didn’t do enough today” for:

“I showed up with love, and that matters more than ticking every box.”

4. Positive Self-Talk Builds Emotional Strength

Motherhood tests you in every way—physically, mentally, emotionally. A supportive inner voice helps you bounce back from tough moments, learn from mistakes, and keep going with grace.

Try This:

Create a few go-to affirmations for when life feels heavy:

  1. “I am learning and growing every day.”

  2. “It’s okay to ask for help.”

  3. “I am doing enough. I am enough.”

5. Being Kind to Yourself Reduces Mum Guilt

Mum guilt is a universal experience, but it doesn’t have to control your life. Positive self-talk is a powerful tool to challenge guilt and replace it with understanding.

Try This:

When guilt creeps in, ask: “Would I say this to my best friend?”

If not, don’t say it to yourself either.

6. Self-Compassion is Self-Care

Kind self-talk is a daily act of self-care. It reminds you that your worth isn’t tied to productivity, perfection, or how smoothly the day goes. It centres your humanity and helps you meet yourself with grace.

Try This:

At the end of each day, say one kind thing to yourself.

It could be as simple as: “Today was hard, and I made it through.”

You Deserve Your Own Kindness

Motherhood is full of lessons – and one of the most important is learning to treat yourself the way you treat your children: with empathy, patience, and love.

You are not your mistakes.

You are not your to-do list.

You are not alone.

You are a human being, doing your best, and you deserve to be spoken to with kindness – especially by the voice you hear the most: your own.

So next time your inner critic pipes up, pause and ask yourself:

“What would love say?”

Because, Mumma, you’re doing better than you think. 💛

IMPORTANT NOTE:

If you truly struggle to reframe your negative self-talk to something more positive, please reach out for support. The key to shifting this is to heal your inner-critic, which is generally connected to your inner-child – who’s in desperate need of love and compassion.

This can be an unconscious pattern that was learned when you were young, and we can create new neural pathways and belief systems to help you feel more connected to yourself, and worthy of love and support.

Book a free Support Session here to find out how.

The Best Self-Love Practices for Mums Who Feel Overlooked

The Best Self-Love Practices for Mums Who Feel Overlooked

by | Apr 7, 2025 | Beth Lewis, Self Care

As a mum, it’s easy to pour your energy into everyone else—your kids, your partner, your work, your home—while putting your own needs on the back burner. Over time, that self-neglect can leave you feeling invisible, undervalued, and disconnected from who you really are.

If you’ve ever thought, “Does anyone even see me?”—you’re not alone.

But here’s the truth: You are worthy of love, care, and appreciation, especially from yourself. Self-love isn’t selfish. It’s the foundation of wellbeing, and the key to showing up for your family from a place of wholeness rather than depletion.

Here are the best self-love practices for mums who feel overlooked—designed to nourish your heart, lift your spirit, and remind you that you matter too.

1. Start with Gentle Self-Talk

If your inner voice is filled with criticism or guilt, it’s time for a mindset shift. You deserve to speak to yourself with the same kindness and compassion you offer your kids.

Try This:

  1. Replace “I’m failing” with “I’m doing my best.”
  2. Begin the day with a kind affirmation like, “I am worthy of love and care.”

Words shape our reality. Let yours be uplifting.

2. Create Tiny Moments Just for You

Self-love doesn’t require hours of free time (though that’s lovely!). It’s about small, consistent moments that reconnect you with you.

Try This:

  1. Sip your coffee in silence before the house wakes up.
  2. Read one page of a book, or listen to a podcast that inspires you.
  3. Take 5 minutes outside to breathe in fresh air.

These pockets of presence add up.

3. Reclaim Something You Love Doing

Remember what made you feel like you before motherhood? Reclaim it.

Try This:

  1. Revisit a hobby (even for 10 minutes a week).
  2. Sign up for that class or creative project.
  3. Make space for something that’s just yours—no guilt.

Self-love is remembering that you are a whole person, not just a role.

4. Write Yourself a Love Note

Yes, really. When was the last time you acknowledged yourself?

Try This:

Write a short note or journal entry that celebrates:

  1. What you’ve overcome
  2. What you’re proud of
  3. What makes you special

Pin it on your mirror. Read it when you forget how amazing you are.

5. Nourish Your Body with Intention

Fueling your body with love is an act of self-respect. You don’t need to follow a strict wellness plan—just tune in to what your body needs.

Try This:

  1. Drink more water.
  2. Eat nourishing foods that make you feel energised.
  3. Stretch or move in a way that feels good.

Honour your body like the powerhouse it is.

6. Set Boundaries That Protect Your Energy

When you feel overlooked, it may be because your needs are always last. Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out—they’re about showing yourself love and respect.

Try This:

  1. Say no without guilt when your plate is full.
  2. Ask for help instead of doing it all.
  3. Protect time in your week that’s just for you.

You teach others how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

7. Celebrate Small Wins Every Day

Motherhood is made of tiny victories—getting everyone dressed, keeping calm during chaos, showing up when it’s hard. These wins matter.

Try This:

At the end of each day, write down 1-3 things you did well.

Big or small, they’re proof that you’re doing an incredible job.

8. Surround Yourself with Uplifting People

You don’t have to do this alone. Surround yourself with people who remind you of your worth, not drain it.

Try This:

  1. Join a supportive mums’ group.
  2. Follow accounts online that promote self-love and real motherhood.
  3. Spend time with friends who lift you up.

You deserve to be seen, heard, and celebrated.

You Are Not Invisible – You Are Invaluable

If you’ve been feeling overlooked, know this: you don’t need outside validation to begin loving yourself again. Self-love is the daily decision to treat yourself with kindness, even when the world is chaotic. Especially then.

Start small. Speak kindly to yourself. Take one moment today to honour your needs.

Because when you treat yourself like someone who matters—you become someone who remembers their worth.

And Mumma, you matter more than you know.

Stay Patient When Your Kids Push Your Limits

Stay Patient When Your Kids Push Your Limits

by | Mar 5, 2025 | Beth Lewis, Self Care

Parenting is one of the most rewarding experiences, but let’s be real—it’s also one of the most testing. Whether it’s tantrums, endless “why” questions, fighting siblings, or refusing to listen, there are moments when our patience is stretched thin.
You love your kids, but that doesn’t mean you won’t feel frustrated or overwhelmed. The key isn’t to never lose patience (because let’s face it, we’re human), but rather to find ways to stay calm and respond, instead of react.
 
If you’re feeling like you’re one meltdown away from a meltdown yourself, here are some practical ways to keep your cool and stay patient, even when your kids are pushing your limits.
 

1. Take a Deep Breath (or Five!)

It sounds simple, but in the heat of the moment, taking a deep breath before reacting can make a world of difference. When we’re frustrated, our body goes into stress mode, and our brain defaults to quick, emotional reactions. Taking a breath gives you a pause—a chance to choose patience over frustration.
Try This:
  • Before reacting, take 5 slow, deep breaths (inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 2, exhale for 6).
  • Imagine yourself breathing in calm and exhaling frustration.
  • Walk away for a moment if needed. It’s okay to take a pause.
Patience isn’t about never feeling frustrated—it’s about learning how to manage those feelings before they take over.
 
 

2. Reframe the Situation: It’s Not Personal

When your child is having a meltdown or repeatedly ignoring instructions, it can feel like they’re intentionally testing your limits. But in most cases, they’re not trying to drive you crazy—they’re just being kids.
Try This:
  • Instead of thinking, Why are they doing this to me?! try asking, What’s really going on here?
  • Remind yourself: Your child isn’t giving you a hard time, they’re having a hard time.
  • Stay curious—could they be tired, hungry, overstimulated, or needing connection?
Shifting your mindset from “They’re being difficult” to “They’re struggling” helps you respond with understanding instead of frustration.
 

3. Lower Your Expectations (for Them & Yourself!)

Let’s be honest—sometimes our frustration comes from expecting too much from our kids. We want them to listen the first time, behave perfectly in public, and never argue. But they’re learning, growing, and testing boundaries—it’s part of childhood.
Try This:
  • Remind yourself of their age and stage—a toddler isn’t going to sit still for long, and a 6-year-old will struggle with emotional regulation.
  • Adjust your own expectations—you’re not supposed to be a perfect parent. You’re learning too!
  • Celebrate the small wins instead of focusing on what’s not going right.
Sometimes, just adjusting your expectations can relieve frustration before it even begins.
 

4. Create a “Patience Plan” for Difficult Moments

Instead of waiting until you’re already frustrated, create a simple plan for how you’ll handle challenging moments in advance.
Try This:
  • When your patience is running low, use a mantra like “I am calm. I am present. I’m okay.”
  • Have a go-to strategy—whether it’s stepping outside, counting to 10, or taking a sip of water.
  • If needed, remove yourself from the situation for a moment to regain composure.
Preparing ahead of time makes it easier to stay patient when emotions are high.
 

5. Use Humour to Diffuse Tension

Sometimes, the best way to reset a tense moment is to find the humour in it. Kids have a way of doing the most ridiculous things at the most inconvenient times. Instead of letting frustration build, lean into the chaos and laugh when you can.
Try This:
  • If your child is throwing a fit over something minor, try making a silly face or using a goofy voice.
  • Turn a frustrating situation into a game (e.g., racing to clean up toys instead of nagging).
  • Remind yourself: One day, you’ll probably laugh about this moment!
Not everything needs to be serious. A little humour can go a long way in keeping your patience intact.
 

6. Take Care of Yourself (Because Burnout = No Patience)

It’s so much harder to stay patient when you’re running on empty. If you’re constantly exhausted, overstimulated, and overwhelmed, even minor frustrations can feel impossible to handle.
Try This:
  • Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, food, and breaks.
  • Schedule 5-10 minutes of self-care daily (even if it’s just a quiet cup of tea).
  • Ask for help when you need it—you don’t have to do it all alone.
A well-rested, emotionally balanced mum is naturally more patient. Prioritise yourself too!
 

7. Repair & Apologise When You Lose Patience

Let’s be real—we all lose our patience sometimes. But what matters is how we handle it afterward.
Try This:
  • If you snap at your child, take a moment to calm down and apologise.
  • Say something like, “I got frustrated, and I’m sorry for yelling. I love you, and I’ll try to handle my emotions better next time.”
  • Teach your child that it’s okay to make mistakes—and how to repair them.
Apologising shows your kids that even parents have big feelings—and that love is always stronger than frustration.
 
 

Patience is a Practice, Not Perfection

Staying patient when your kids are pushing your limits isn’t always easy, but it is possible. The goal isn’t to never feel frustrated—it’s to learn how to manage those feelings before they turn into reactions you regret.
So next time you feel your patience slipping, pause, take a breath, and remind yourself:
  • You’re doing your best.
  • This moment will pass.
  • You are a great mum—even on tough days.